LESSON 6 - Backbiting will come back to bite you!

Its true! Even if you use no name and tell the secret, its still backbiting!
Honestly speaking, as far as I can remember I have never told anothers secret. Probably because I knew that no matter how hard I kept the secret for the other, somehow or the other the word gets out. And thats when it becomes my fault even though I was not the snitch.
The word 'secret' in itself is the temptation.
My secrets, no matter how small they are, has never slipped from my tongue. I guess I have trust issues!!!
Anyway todays lesson is about stopping yourself from backbiting because the truth is no matter how juicy the story is to tell, it will come back to you.

Scenario
Imagine a friend A telling best friend B of her husbands affair with a model. B finding the story too juicy to keep to herself finds it safe to tell C. C, who is unknown to A, tells her colleagues at work. One colleague finds it so strange that the name is familiar tells A's neighbour to confirm the story. Neighbour shocked at the name and story runs immediately to A to warn her of the rumours been spread about her husband.

I am sure you will love to know more but that was just a rewritten scenario of what happened. The real one goes on and on and on before it reached the poor wife. It's safe to say though that she will be careful with the friends she chooses.

BASIC TRUTH - Be careful of whom you share your stories with. Do not become that biting friend. Choose your men first with the mind then let the heart follow.

Also don't let that friend tramp over you, kick that ass!!!!!!!

LESSON 5 - The fruit of patience is really sweet!

We live in an generation that doesn't practice patience as often as we need to.

We have become so accustomed in getting things done quickly that when we bump into being patient, we blow our heads off.

It's not easy wanting something so bad and at the same time waiting for it. It is difficult!

But that does not mean we should become spoilt brats and scream our heads off at others. Nobody likes a bitter spoilt brat. And I am not talking about children, they scream their heads off all the time for nothing, I am talking about those supposedly sensible young and old adults who need a wake up call.

BASIC TRUTH - Being patient always has its rewards.

Lesson - Being patient with yourself allows you to be patient with others and in turn makes you the better person.

 

Basic truth: LESSON 4 - Bragging is for the weak!

Basic truth: LESSON 4 - Bragging is for the weak!: "We love to pamper ourselves with beautiful garments, ornaments, jewellery and we even go overboard in making our homes too expensive to live..."

LESSON 4 - Bragging is for the weak!

We love to pamper ourselves with beautiful garments, ornaments, jewellery and we even go overboard in making our homes too expensive to live in.

My question is "WHY?".

Many of us, including myself at one point, would say, " To enjoy the beauty and let others compliment your style of living."
Thats where we go wrong. You wouldn't believe it, but in my journey of self discovery I have seen many people who go way beyond their budget to make themselves look good. When asked, they replied frankly that they want to look and live better than anyone else.

It might not come to a shock for some of you because surprisingly almost 70% of the people I have come across, live to please others.
People love to brag, they look for opportunities where they can talk about their expensive assets. Its sad to think of people like that, because it makes them seem like thats all they have to live for in life.

My dad often gets frustrated when he meets people who brag. Recently he met somebody that bragged about their house getting done up with the most expensive decor on the market, it still cracks me up with the response my father gave that person. He told them that if he could help it he would break every window in our house and replace it with cardboard boxes, at least he will have a good nights sleep.

The Basic Truth - Never live for the sake of showing off. If your right hand does something good, don't let your left hand know.

LESSON 3 - Be the better person, no matter what!

It's very easy to get through life the sinfull way and it becomes even more harder when its time to repent those sins. There isn't many of us who can proudly say "I have done good today!". We use the easy door number three and just lie our way out of our problems.

I have done many things that I am not proud of but when I look at others, I think of myself as the better person. Some of the people I have come across, I would have never imagined them to be so poorly minded.

It takes years of bitterness and a moment to apologise.

Pride takes over many of us. It takes alot to walk upto somebody and apologise. The question is, "How bad can it be to apologise?" What is the worst that could happen? The person will reject your apology and thats it. But imagine how much better it would feel knowing you were the better person than him.

Not many of us believe we have the ability to do good and thats because we have trained our minds in believing we can't.

The Basic Truth is - nobody is born bad. Its what we learn and preach that defines who we truly are.

I know I would really feel awfull if somebody told me I was a bad person. Admitting one's sin and learning from it is better than acting oblivious and doing it over and over again. No matter how much you ignore the truth it will come back to bite your ass.

That is called the circle of life. You do wrong, wrong will follow you. You do good and good will shower you.

LESSON 2 - There is a reason for everything in life

Growing up my mum always used these words. She often used it when my dad seemed upset. When it had been my time to receive the message I understood exactly what she meant.

Many would be surprised at what I am about to say and some would actually realize that those unanswered events didn't just happen because of dumb luck.

We are all lucky in life. Some more than others, but that is due to the decisions we make. Not because others were more worthy or some nonsense like that.

One of the many incidences that made me realize how true this simple advice is occured during the holidays. My dad is one those type of people who are a bit too punctual and so he got really upset that day when we got delayed in packing up to leave for the week. We were maybe fifteen to twenty minutes late from our set departure time. As we drove, not very far from home, there had been a horrific accident . The cops and ambulance had just arrived and when we asked around , the accident had happened the exact time as we had predicted to have passed that area if we had left on time.

This was just one of the many incidences that has happened to me and probably has happened to many of you.

For every bad incidence in life, I always remind myself that there is always something good coming out from it. Even if I am not the benefactor.

LESSON 1 - Never lose yourself to anyone

This is one lesson I personally cannot seem to keep up with. You will be quite surprised how difficult it is to lose yourself.

When I say lose yourself, I am talking about the great personality you had before any problem ever hit you.
You will be surprised to know that you will change in every turn in life. The harder the turn, the worst the change.

It will take somebody very close to you to actually tell you of this change. The best person to go to is your mother. Yes...............your mother!

I know this because my mother gave me the full run down on who I was and who I am now.
And you know what?...........................She was so right, that it scared me. I remembered that person I once was and I loved her to bits. So did my mother.

The Basic Truth - I made a promise to her and to myself that by writing my book, I will find her darling little girl again. Personally, I blame marriage! Its a too stressful job for both myself and my husband.

We were definately ready for marriage, don't get me wrong. It was the managing alone that really turned us around. God help us if we have to have children right now!

So moving on to todays lesson, try to take that turn slowly. The last thing you need is for somebody to tell you that you a bitter young women/man.

New Voyage

There will be many, like my husband, who will see it useless to begin writing a book. Somehow I fall in the category who understand the passion behind it.
Many will find what I have to say shocking but there will be some who have lived the same reality.
I don't have a great imagination but somehow my interpretation of a story is much better.

Introduction

This is my first attempt in having my words spoken out loud to the public. I will have to start somewhere and what better way to do it than this.

I am an average girl who wishes to publish her thoughts someday. Its not easy because I suck in my writing. But I have a lot to say and I hope to have insight in what the public thinks before I even get started. 

Its a long stretch ahead and my time has always been procrastinated in doing more important things. 

My book is going to be about everything that I have come across in my lifetime. People, places, lifestyle choices, clothing and my favourite, food.

It does not sound exciting now but somehow I know its going to be a great venture. Time is my enemy right now so until next time.